Frustrating moments!

Sometimes we try hard to impact some values on our children, might be as simple as a good reading habit, focus in exam preparations or even some more delicate issues.   There are times it just seems we keep talking, but we are not communicating.  The child doesn’t just seem to have gotten the point!  The trend you are trying to stop, you see repeating itself.  Sometimes, you are trying to say to your child ‘see I have towed that line and it did not profit me in anyway, you will not benefit anything from going that route’.  At such times, if there was a better way to let the child see exactly through your heart and get the import of what you are trying to communicate.  Whilst it is probably okay to allow the child learn from his/her mistakes, you definitely want to avoid the ‘costly’ mistakes, if you had the choice.

Sometimes, you are not even sure whether you are not doing too much talking.  The child begins to feel he/she is in a classroom anytime near where you are.  You are beginning to sound like a broken record, and sometimes you hear, ‘mummy I know, you have said that a thousand times’!   My response is ‘if you had complied the first time, I probably will not need a second time’.

I think here we probably need a different strategy.  This is the time to take it to God in prayers.  Sometimes I find myself saying ‘God I really don’t know how to handle this, please help me.  Just take it over from where I have stopped, minister to this child by Yourself’.  Thank God, He has a way of showing up in our circumstances.  Somehow, He deposits peace within me and I watch things gradually take shape once again.  Thank God for God!

Sometimes we bother so much about our children, we put ourselves under pressure and spend time worrying instead of taking it all to God in prayers.  Worrying really doesn’t solve any problem at the end of the day; it probably adds one or two more!  There is just that limit to what we can do as human beings, no matter how ‘perfect’ we think we are as parents; God is the super parent that really can handle everything.

Prayer point:  O Lord, tune our children’s hears to good counsel, guide their paths and protect them.

You are their Heavenly Father; take over that parenting task even in areas where we are struggling or perhaps where we have failed as their earthly parent.

Proverbs 19:20 ‘ Listen to counsel  and receive instruction, that  you may be wise in your latter days’

Proverbs 1:5 ‘ A wise man will hear and increase in learning, a man of understanding will attain wise counsel’

Proverbs 12:15 ‘ The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise’